Often times my work as a therapist is to help an individual recognize and rework the belief systems that they hold to be true, and real. Over our lifetimes, these belief systems find their way into our lives and can become hardwired into our beings. They in turn, fuel the feelings and actions that can govern our lives.
These belief systems often arise from an early traumatic event, or ongoing hardship. During these times or as we remember them, we form opinions and construct beliefs about ourselves, other people, or about life in general. If left unchecked, these can become the hardscape within our lives… beliefs like, “People suck, I’m always going to be hurt by them; I will never have what I want; Life is unfair, things never work out for me; or I’ll never be enough.”
The current pandemic situation that we are living in, is one of those life altering times. This is prime time for belief systems to be taking shape or reinforced into the fabric of our lives. I’ve been paying close attention to what beliefs are popping up for me during this time. I am keenly aware that the beliefs which form or take root during this time will ultimately influence and shape my future once this season has past. So I am paying close attention and challenging their validity and place in my life.
However, to make changes about our belief systems, we first have to recognize what they are. Take a moment to write down whatever thoughts come to mind for you as you think about your current life situation, your family dynamics, the world, or life in general. Some of the beliefs systems might look like negative rumination, all or nothing thinking, catastrophizing,“shoulds”, or judgement, criticism, and blame. Then look through the list and decide whether you really believe those to be true, or real. It’s possible that the statement is true, but may not be the whole story. This isn’t about trying to paint a silver lining around hard, true realities, but rather challenging what is false, and recognizing the complexity of the true realities of life.
Additionally, we can adjust our belief systems by adjusting our perspective. Moving our bodies, engaging in creativity, and finding positive human connection are all helpful ways to shift our perspective in order to challenge the worthiness of our beliefs. During this truly difficult and pressing time in life, let’s stay present, aware of our thinking patterns, finding ways to be grounded in truth, and connected to one another. Wishing you peace and a sound mind.